Marriage was God’s Idea

But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female’. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Mark 10:6-8

Marriage was God’s idea. He designed it. He created human beings as male and female, and he created the covenant of marriage. God did this to reflect the beauty and permanence of Christ’s loving relationship with His bride, the church (Eph. 5:22-33; Rev. 19:7). Therefore, He established marriage to be the comprehensive joining of one man and one woman for life (Mark 10: 2-12; Matt. 19:4-6). God also intended it to provide mutual companionship through life’s joys and difficulties, to create stability for raising and nurturing children, and to give strength and cohesiveness to society in general.

Marriage matters, it always has. Our culture is pushing to “update” the meaning of marriage, and they see it as astounding that we are so backwards that we would not want to do the same. I’ll be honest, it feels really uncomfortable at times to talk about God’s design for marriage, because people stare at me like I have three heads.

But heres the catch: marriage is not ours to redefine. What we’re talking about is more than tradition or the ward of culture – marriage is the design of the loving God who created us. In the very beginning, in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 1-3), the first wedding happened. We see clearly that God claims credit for creating two unique, yet equally valuable types of human beings – male and female (Gen. 1:27). In chapter 2, God walks Eve down the aisle, as it were, presenting her to her waiting husband, Adam. This is where the idea of a comprehensive joining of one man with one woman for life came from. But this was not Adam or Eve’s grand idea, it was God’s.

Throughout the Bible we see marriage consistently presented as the union of one man with one woman. Jesus quoted Genesis 2:24 – God made them male and female, one flesh – when he challenged those that were trying to redefine marriage (Mark 10:2-12). Then again in Ephesians 5 the Apostle Paul quotes this same verse, bringing to light that the covenant of marriage means more than we knew. God created the union of a man and a woman to reflect the beauty and permanence of Christ’s loving relationship with His bride. Scripture sounds one note on this topic.

Please understand, I readily admit there are gay and lesbian couples that are romantically and faithfully involved; they love each other and are committed to each other and their families. Here’s what I am saying – while they can love each other deeply and faithfully, they cannot have a biblical marriage. Why? Because God is the creator and definer of what marriage is and is not. For human beings to refine or correct the Designer is an affront to His honor and authority. It’s like an amateur artist, well intentioned as she may have been, trying to restore a fresco while defacing it instead.

As Elders at Windham Baptist one of our roles is to protect and preserve good doctrine, so we thought it wise to develop a statement on marriage for our bylaws. The paragraph at the beginning of the post should help us find unity around God’s definition of marriage. We’ll talk more about this at our next Members’ Meeting on September 9th at 11:00.


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