Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

What is the Purpose of Marriage?

If someone asked you, “What is the purpose of marriage?”, how would you respond? Is the purpose of marriage primarily so that I would feel loved and fulfilled? Is the purpose of marriage that I would make my spouse feel loved and fulfilled?

This video will provide a very biblical answer, and perhaps stretch your comfort zones. Trust me, it is worth the eight minutes.

You can download a free copy (.pdf) of the book, This Momentary Marriage, here.

You can also read more from Ian and Larissa here:


Preparing for Valentine’s Day – part 3

As Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, I wanted to recommend some resources that you might find helpful for your marriage. So here’s a list of suggestions with some brief notes.

Some Print Resources:

  • When Sinners Say ‘I Do’ by Dave Harvey – this book is must read for our marriage prep, even if you don’t read much you will enjoy this one.
  • The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller – another wise and helpful book by Keller.
  • Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll – a helpful, though somewhat controversial book. For some, their candor will be refreshing, for others it will be over the top.
  • What Did You Expect by Paul Tripp – a hopeful, yet real discussion of what a marriage needs and what we need to bring.

Audio Resources:

  • John Piper did an excellent series on marriage a few years back – you can download them here and listen together. What is marriage for? How do I forgive? The Husbands role as head? What does it mean to submit?

Seminar Formats:

  • Weekend to Remember by Family Life – many of our couples have enjoyed these weekends, and their marriages have benefitted greatly. Tim and Cindy Irish are excellent resources inside our own faith family – talk to them to find out more.

What If I Don’t Feel Love for My Spouse?

A friend recommended a post today, and after reading it I wanted to pass it on. Steve Cornell writes,

A wife once told me that she planned to leave her husband because (in her words) she “just didn’t love him anymore.” I asked her to change the way she worded what she planned to do. I suggested that it would be more accurate to say, “I am choosing to no longer value my husband and to break my commitment to remain faithful to him.

She insisted on using terms that made her a victim of feelings she could not change. Ironically, she also thought her decision was virtuous in its honesty and lack of hypocrisy. Over the years, I have had people tell me they want to be married because they love each other and I’ve had people (like this woman) tell me that they want out of their marriages because they no longer feel love for their mate.

This has led me to ask some serious questions about the nature of love. What is love? Is it something we can fall into and fall out of? Is it chemistry? Infatuation? Is it an emotional response or a choice? In my evaluation, I’ve concluded that we need to distinguish two dimensions of love.

You’re going to want to read more, so click here to read the rest of the post.

7 Ways to Enjoy Friendship with Your Husband

Here is a great post for the wives out there, written by a pastor’s wife. And even if you have young kids, you have time to read it…

Click on the picture and the post will open in a new tab or window. Enjoy.

Our Mutual Joy?

Newsweek’s cover story this week is entitled, “Our Mutual Joy” about gay marriage and the Bible. The tag line says, “Opponents of gay marriage often cite Scripture. But what the Bible teaches about love argues for the other side”.

Here’s the opening paragraph:

Let’s try for a minute to take the religious conservatives at their word and define marriage as the Bible does. Shall we look to Abraham, the great patriarch, who slept with his servant when he discovered his beloved wife Sarah was infertile? Or to Jacob, who fathered children with four different women (two sisters and their servants)? Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon and the kings of Judah and Israel—all these fathers and heroes were polygamists. The New Testament model of marriage is hardly better. Jesus himself was single and preached an indifference to earthly attachments—especially family. The apostle Paul (also single) regarded marriage as an act of last resort for those unable to contain their animal lust. “It is better to marry than to burn with passion,” says the apostle, in one of the most lukewarm endorsements of a treasured institution ever uttered. Would any contemporary heterosexual married couple—who likely woke up on their wedding day harboring some optimistic and newfangled ideas about gender equality and romantic love—turn to the Bible as a how-to script?

What do you think? How would you respond if your co-worker or neighbor or brother handed you a copy of this and wanted you to answer?

Here’s how one person responded, check out Mollie Hemmingway comments here.

Don’t forget “A Weekend to Remember”

 Some of you know Crickett and how incredibly creative she is.  Even if you don’t, here’s a little reminder about the “Weekend to Remember” in Portland, ME. 

If you have questions or would like to go, please contact Tim and Cindy Irish.  Registration money is due this Sunday!